Increasing Positive Interactions in Your Relationships

Do you keep score in your relationships of all the times your loved one has disappointed you?

Dr. John Gottman, relationship expert, has found in his over 40 years of research that for every negative interaction there must be five positive interactions to overcome the negative sentiment.

With this in mind, we need to be focusing on ways our loved one pleases us instead of disappoints us.

Don’t take love for granted.

Following are more ways you can increase positive interactions in your relationships:

  • Take time to learn what is happening in your loved one’s world. Ask questions about their day. Stop and respond to their attempts to connect with you.
  • Compliment your loved one often, especially in front of others.
  • Show an interest in your loved one’s hobbies or interests. This says, “You are important to me and I want to know more about you.”
  • Avoid criticism, as this can feel like a direct attack.
  • Be willing to say, “I’m sorry,” if you know you’re in the wrong.
  • Be willing to accept an apology when given. Harboring un-forgiveness breeds resentment and a desire to get even.

Written by: Ann Sheerin, LPC

Originally published at https://growcounseling.com on August 22, 2022.

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